Welcome. Couples come to therapy for many reasons—feeling stuck in the same arguments, struggling with communication or intimacy, navigating life transitions, rebuilding trust, preparing for marriage, or discerning the future of their relationship. I work with couples at many stages, including those seeking premarital counseling as well as partners exploring conscious uncoupling.
Couples therapy begins by paying attention to what is already working in your relationship—the moments of care, attraction, responsiveness, and longing that often get overshadowed by conflict or distance. Rather than focusing only on what’s broken, we build on the strengths so that we can approach the challenges in your relationship from a place of care and connection.
In our work, we will slow down and discover new ways to communicate. Communication in relationships is about far more than using the “right” words. As relationship researcher John Gottman reminds us, “The way couples begin a discussion about a problem—how you present an issue and how your partner responds to you—is absolutely critical.” In therapy, we slow conversations down and pay close attention to how interactions unfold moment by moment—tone, timing, emotional cues, and bodily responses—so partners can recognize when communication shifts from connection to protection. Rather than repeating familiar arguments, couples learn how to approach difficult topics in ways that feel safer, more respectful, and more emotionally available.
Another key part of our work together involves understanding how earlier life experiences—especially from childhood—may be shaping the dynamics in your relationship today. Many of the ways we protect ourselves, reach for closeness, or withdraw during conflict developed long ago as intelligent survival strategies. While these patterns once helped you adapt and stay safe, are no longer helpful in our adult relationships, leading to misunderstanding, reactivity, or emotional distance. In therapy, we gently explore how these strategies show up in the present moment, bringing curiosity and compassion to their origins while creating space to practice new, more flexible ways of relating that better support intimacy and connection.
Over time, partners develop a greater ability to stay present with one another, even during moments of vulnerability or challenge. Couples often describe feeling more seen, more whole, and more trusting in their ability to repair and grow together—creating a relationship that continues to deepen long after therapy ends.
My couples work is informed by Transformative Couples Therapy (TCT), a body-based, attachment-focused model.